Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Wanting your kids to leave you alone and then missing them when they do
You can spend an afternoon fantasizing about one hour without being touched or called for, then look at a photo of your…
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Parenthood
A selection of guides for the questions, changes and decisions that come with this stage.
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Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Why five minutes alone can feel so important when you are a mom
Five minutes cannot fix a week of exhaustion, but they can change how the next half hour feels. When your attention has…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Sitting alone in the car before going inside for a few minutes of quiet
You park, turn off the engine, and do not get out right away. You are not accomplishing anything. You are simply enjoying…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling less patient than other moms
You watch another mom respond calmly to something that would have set you off and the conclusion arrives fast: she is patient;…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Comparing yourself with moms who seem to enjoy parenting more
One mom seems delighted by floor play, another talks excitedly about family weekends, and you think: I get bored, I need space,…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Why other people’s motherhood looks easier from the outside
You see the calm child in the restaurant, not the preparation beforehand. You see a mom exercise three times a week, not…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
How to stop using other families as a measure of whether you’re doing it right
One family eats dinner together and you think you should too. Another travels often and suddenly you wonder whether you do enough.…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling like every other parent knows what they’re doing except you
Other parents answer quickly: “This is what we do.” You are still weighing two options and it can feel as though you…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Impostor syndrome in motherhood: feeling like people will discover you don’t know what you’re doing
Nobody hands you a certificate that says you now know how to be a mother. You learn while the child keeps changing,…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
How to build confidence as a mom without needing to do everything perfectly
Confidence does not arrive on the day you finally stop making mistakes. If it depended on that, nobody would have it. It…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling like other moms handle everything better than you
You see your unanswered messages, the argument from breakfast, and the laundry pile. You see another mom arrive on time with the…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
How to stop comparing yourself with moms who seem more organized
A perfect calendar can look like a personality trait: she is organized and you are not. What you may actually be seeing…