Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Wanting your kids to leave you alone and then missing them when they do
You can spend an afternoon fantasizing about one hour without being touched or called for, then look at a photo of your…
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Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Identity, wellbeing, guilt, rest and making room for yourself in motherhood.
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Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Why five minutes alone can feel so important when you are a mom
Five minutes cannot fix a week of exhaustion, but they can change how the next half hour feels. When your attention has…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Sitting alone in the car before going inside for a few minutes of quiet
You park, turn off the engine, and do not get out right away. You are not accomplishing anything. You are simply enjoying…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
When running errands alone feels like rest after having kids
Buying detergent did not suddenly become leisure. What changed was the context: you can move at your own pace, finish a thought,…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Why an uninterrupted shower can feel like a luxury when you are a mom
The shower did not change. What changed was the chance to close a door and know that, for a few minutes, nobody…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Is it normal to look forward to being alone at the end of the day?
You can love your family deeply and still watch the clock, waiting for the moment when nobody is talking to you, touching…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Fear that you will not be a good mother before the baby is born
Before your baby is born, it can feel as if you are already being evaluated for a job you have not started.…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling less patient than other moms
You watch another mom respond calmly to something that would have set you off and the conclusion arrives fast: she is patient;…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Comparing yourself with moms who seem to enjoy parenting more
One mom seems delighted by floor play, another talks excitedly about family weekends, and you think: I get bored, I need space,…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Why other people’s motherhood looks easier from the outside
You see the calm child in the restaurant, not the preparation beforehand. You see a mom exercise three times a week, not…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
How to stop using other families as a measure of whether you’re doing it right
One family eats dinner together and you think you should too. Another travels often and suddenly you wonder whether you do enough.…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling like every other parent knows what they’re doing except you
Other parents answer quickly: “This is what we do.” You are still weighing two options and it can feel as though you…