Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling relieved when no one needs you for a few minutes
Sometimes rest does not begin when you sit down. It begins when you realize that for a few minutes, nobody’s next step…
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Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Identity, wellbeing, guilt, rest and making room for yourself in motherhood.
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Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Wanting your kids to leave you alone and then missing them when they do
You can spend an afternoon fantasizing about one hour without being touched or called for, then look at a photo of your…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Why five minutes alone can feel so important when you are a mom
Five minutes cannot fix a week of exhaustion, but they can change how the next half hour feels. When your attention has…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Sitting alone in the car before going inside for a few minutes of quiet
You park, turn off the engine, and do not get out right away. You are not accomplishing anything. You are simply enjoying…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
When running errands alone feels like rest after having kids
Buying detergent did not suddenly become leisure. What changed was the context: you can move at your own pace, finish a thought,…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Why an uninterrupted shower can feel like a luxury when you are a mom
The shower did not change. What changed was the chance to close a door and know that, for a few minutes, nobody…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Fear that you will not be a good mother before the baby is born
Before your baby is born, it can feel as if you are already being evaluated for a job you have not started.…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling like other moms handle everything better than you
You see your unanswered messages, the argument from breakfast, and the laundry pile. You see another mom arrive on time with the…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
How to stop comparing yourself with moms who seem more organized
A perfect calendar can look like a personality trait: she is organized and you are not. What you may actually be seeing…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Comparing yourself with moms who cook, work, play, and keep a perfect home
The impossible mother is often assembled quietly: one person cooks beautifully, another is organized, another plays creatively, and another has the cleanest…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling less patient than other moms
You watch another mom respond calmly to something that would have set you off and the conclusion arrives fast: she is patient;…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Comparing yourself with moms who seem to enjoy parenting more
One mom seems delighted by floor play, another talks excitedly about family weekends, and you think: I get bored, I need space,…