Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
When even your free time is full of things you need to remember
Forty minutes without the kids is not automatically forty minutes off. If the gap immediately fills with scheduling, buying what is missing,…
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Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Needing to be alone after spending all day with your kids
After many hours of intense togetherness, sometimes you do not want another plan, another conversation, or even quiet company. You want to…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Feeling relieved when no one needs you for a few minutes
Sometimes rest does not begin when you sit down. It begins when you realize that for a few minutes, nobody’s next step…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Wanting your kids to leave you alone and then missing them when they do
You can spend an afternoon fantasizing about one hour without being touched or called for, then look at a photo of your…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
Is it normal to look forward to being alone at the end of the day?
You can love your family deeply and still watch the clock, waiting for the moment when nobody is talking to you, touching…
Motherhood, identity & wellbeing
When the best part of the day is the silence after the kids go to bed
Sometimes you do not want to accomplish anything after bedtime. You do not want to optimize the evening or even talk. You…
Pregnancy & preparation
How to maintain other parts of your identity while you are pregnant
You do not have to choose between engaging with pregnancy and remaining yourself. Identity can expand without every previous interest disappearing to…
Pregnancy & preparation
When everything is about the baby and you miss people asking about you
You can love and anticipate your baby while missing questions about your work, ideas, friendships, or simply how you are — not…
Pregnancy & preparation
Not wanting pregnancy photos and feeling like you should want them
You can want to remember pregnancy without wanting to pose, display your bump, or create a maternity shoot. There is no single…
Pregnancy & preparation
When your pregnancy starts to feel like public information
A visible pregnancy does not give everyone automatic access to your dates, decisions, body, or emotions. Privacy can still have boundaries even…
Pregnancy & preparation
Getting tired of everyone constantly asking how your pregnancy is going
A caring question can still become exhausting when you answer it ten times a week. You do not owe every person a…
Pregnancy & preparation
Feeling uncomfortable with the attention you receive because you are pregnant
Positive attention can still be tiring. You can appreciate care and still want less focus on you and your pregnancy.